Sunday, May 10, 2009

My Beautiful Boy & Asperger's Syndrome

This is my Beautiful Boy at the beach with his sister earlier this year

Well just over a week ago we found out our beautiful boy has Asperger Syndrome which is a form of autism. We have had a very long journey to get to this point He is now 9 years old and I had many tears on the day we found out. But now it's all positive we can now move forward and help him with this.
I wanted to put it out there in the hope that other mothers are going throught the same thing and can understand what we are going through at the moment or perople that have more information about this.

I have done a lot of reading about Asperger's Syndrome and it's 1 in 158 boys who suffer from this. Wow!
He is a high functioning person with Autism which means he is very smart he is really good with numbers and school work he just needs one on one help, but one of his problems is he has never been able to socialise with children his own age.

I have attached a basic understanding of Asperger's below.

From my clinical experience I consider that children and adults with Aspergers Syndrome have a different, not defective, way of thinking.The person usually has a strong desire to seek knowledge, truth and perfection with a different set of priorities than would be expected with other people. There is also a different perception of situations and sensory experiences.

The overriding priority may be to solve a problem rather than satisfy the social or emotional needs of others.The person values being creative rather than co-operative.The person with Aspergers syndrome may perceive errors that are not apparent to others, giving considerable attention to detail, rather than noticing the “big picture”.

The person is usually renowned for being direct, speaking their mind and being honest and determined and having a strong sense of social justice.The person may actively seek and enjoy solitude, be a loyal friend and have a distinct sense of humour.However, the person with Aspergers Syndrome can have difficulty with the management and expression of emotions.

Children and adults with Aspergers syndrome may have levels of anxiety, sadness or anger that indicate a secondary mood disorder. There may also be problems expressing the degree of love and affection expected by others. Fortunately, we now have successful psychological treatment programs to help manage and express emotions.

It would be best to google Asperger Syndrome to get the full understanding of it.

So we have a long road ahead. He is such a joy in our life and we both love him dearly and are thankful for everyday we have with him. He's my special Boy!

Have a beautiful mother Day!
I will be spending mine with my 3 children and my husband and having a lovely day out.

Lisa X0X0


A Bite of Country Cupcakes said...

My Niece has aspergers and is bordering Autistic...
She does'nt quite meet the criteria in the big Spectrum Umbrella tho for Autism diagnosis.
Tony attwood has an really insightful view on Autism and other spectrum disorders and explains about how one huge area of Gain in these individuals often leaves a Deficit in another often social.
They are often the Brainy kids!
Hugely clever and yet in some ways just not quite getting it.
My Niece canot read body language and will blurt out things not really appropriate...

Like the Brainy Doctors who have no bed side manner??
Gain and deficit.

You love your Son and the journey thus far is I imagine one very emotion filled.
sometimes though just having a "label" does help and is secretly a Blessing as it stops the Other types of unfair unjust labels from creeping in by thoughtless others...
You know like "rude" "naughty" "unsociable" whatever.
All the best on the journey...
Happy Mummas day!

A Bite of Country Cupcakes said...

Whoa! Sorry about the Novel of a comment:)

Pearl Maple said...

Thank you for that beautiful explanation, so many people are troubled with different issues but with those challenges often come talents of other sorts.

Lots of lovely creative things going on in your blog space, thanks for sharing.

We are the Smith Family said...

Wow....what a journey you have been on I am sure and what a journey lies ahead. I worked with an amazing young man (I was his 4th grade teacher) that had Aspergers...what a gift he was in my life!!! He helped me see the world in a way I would have never stopped to see....